Embracing the Lifestyle

"I'm going out tonight-I'm feelin' alright

Gonna let it all hang out

Wanna make some noise-really raise my voice

Yeah, I wanna scream and shout

No inhibitions-make no conditions

Get a little outta line

I ain't gonna act politically correct

I only wanna have a good time

The best thing about being a woman

Is the prerogative to have a little fun and...

Oh, oh, oh, go totally crazy-forget I'm a lady

Men's shirts-short skirts

Oh, oh, oh, really go wild-yeah, doin' it in style

Oh, oh, oh, get in the action-feel the attraction

Color my hair-do what I dare

Oh, oh, oh, I wanna be free-yeah, to feel the way I feel

Man! I feel like a woman!"

– Man, I Feel Like a Woman (Shania Twain)

After I took a bite of the apple at the desert swing resort, I thought I would feel guilty. Rather, I felt invigorated and alive. As I sorted through my emotions and feelings, I was amazed by this new experience and how it changed me.
First, I felt an overwhelming sense of love for my husband. This seemed a curious paradox, as I thought I would feel guilty as if I was cheating. But my husband was there, he was willing, and even a participant and enabler in giving me the freedom to have this experience. I felt very comfortable as he wasn’t jealous, but aroused by what had happened (he was as excited as I was!). And I got turned on as well when watching him flirt with other women!

As we started exploring this new lifestyle (with so much to learn!), we had so much to talk about. For the first time in our relationship, we truly became best friends (who else could I talk with about all these experiences?). We supported each other, not only by being available to help “rescue” the other from an uncomfortable situation, but also by flirting in hopes of getting to know other potential play partners. It is truly a team effort since both members of another couple must be attracted to both of you for anything to happen.

Since I was embracing the lifestyle (what little I knew about it at the time…it was more being willing to be sexually adventurous at this point), my husband asked if I wanted to go to a convention—“3000 of our closest new friends,” he said, sponsored by the Lifestyles.org at the Stardust in Las Vegas. I thought it would be fun to dress up and dance sexy…and was intrigued with what new adventures may await us in the future.